5 Things You Should Never Say to a New Mom!

News moms have heard quite a few things. Some pleasant and others not so much. Lets hop into the 5 things you should NEVER say to a new mom.

1. You're doing it wrong..
Wow! You're a few months into being a new mother and someone (family, friend or stranger) tells you that you're "doing it wrong". What nerve! Whether the diaper changes aren't "fast enough" for their liking or you're holding the bottle the wrong way (don't think we could mess that one up) someone, somewhere will have a very unwanted opinion about how you're handling motherhood. When it's all said and done, you're the parent! The opinions of others doesn't actually matter. So take it with a grain of salt. We all parent differently. Whatever works for you. Right?

2. You're not as small as you use to be.
Well of course I'm not! I just birthed a human being 2 months ago! Remember? How selfish can one person be? We are going through so much at the moment. Sleep deprivation, depression and crazy hormonal imbalances all wrapped up in one. It's something that we're struggling with behind closed doors. We know that we're not as skinny as we use to be. You do not have to remind us.

3. Stop holding your baby so much. You're going to spoil him/her.
Telling a new mom to stop holding her baby so much are a very poor choice of words! I've waited nine long, nauseous months carrying this beautiful baby. Longing to have her in my arms for oh, so long. This is my moment! I want to soak all of this in for as long as I possibly can. I don't plan on putting her down anytime soon! After all, they grow up so fast and before I can blink she'll be all grown up. So let the "spoiling" begin. From one mom to another, hold your beautiful babies! In my true opinion you can never hold your newborn "too much".

4. Get some rest.
okay. This is very nice advice. However, I can't exactly "get some rest," I'm a new mother and my baby wakes up numerous times every night! Sure, I could nap when she naps, but even doing so I go to sleep tired and wake up even more exhausted than before. This is apart of new mom status. It's easier said than done.

5. When are you going to have another baby?
Seriously, why does it seem like we all get asked this question just a few short months after having a baby? Listen,We may be a little groggy from the no sleep thing, but believe us when we answer "no time soon" to your question fairly quickly! It's not exactly an LOL moment for us when you ask this silly question. But, if you insist, prepare yourself for a snappy comeback from one tired momma. We are sure to take every precaution necessary before we "have another."

Living with PPD after baby!

New mom. Ahh, those two words sound so beautiful, but is it really? Actually it's the complete opposite. Nobody ever warns you about the ugly side of it and by ugly I mean postpartum depression! That's right you heard me. You've just brought this beautiful tiny angel into the world that you love so much. However you don't feel so happy.

Four days into being home you start to feel this strong sensation of despondency and dejection. You cry over spilled milk, literally! This is suppose to be the happiest time of your life. You're in this whirlwind of emotion. Thoughts run wild. "Why do I feel so depressed?" "Why do I look so gross?" "Will my husband ever find me attractive again?" The very thought of starting your day alone with a newborn baby as your husband prepares to go back to work is terrifying! It's okay to cry about it. In fact, Please do! So much is going on. Hormones are running rampant, your body doesn't look the same, the stretch marks look horrid. You no longer recognize the person starring back at you in the mirror. How do we as new mothers prepare ourselves for this? Well, we don't. We could never prepare ourselves physically or mentally for PPD. We're stronger than we think when we have no choice but to go through this.

This is totally cliche, but I'll say it anyway. This will get better! I know what you're thinking, "no it won't". Right now you're in the midst of the storm and it will clear up. Your sunny days of baby giggles and the pitter patter of small feet are just ahead. You will feel "normal" again. Whatever that means... You will feel sexy again, you will fit into your jeans again. And trust me your husband still finds you attractive! He loves you! Most important, you will learn to care for your baby the way you should. You will be a pro at it in no time. So, in the meantime sleep when you can and accept help from family and friends. Relax momma, you are doing amazing!